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In this section, we explore the personal and professional changes that shape us — from career shifts to retirement or identity challenges — and share support to help you navigate life’s turning points with confidence.
Adapting to Change: Navigating Life’s Transitions
Change is an inevitable part of life. Sometimes it’s planned and exciting, like starting a new job or moving to a new home. Other times, it’s unexpected and difficult, such as a health challenge, a loss, or a shift in circumstances. No matter what kind of change you’re facing, transitions can be daunting and adapting to a new way of life can be challenging.
While change can sometimes feel overwhelming, it also brings opportunities for growth. Here are some ways to navigate change while taking care of your mental health and wellbeing as a Blue Light worker or volunteer:
Change can bring a range of emotions – excitement, anxiety, frustration, or even grief. If you’re struggling with a transition, or find yourself finding it more difficult than you anticipated, remember that you’re only human and that change can cause all sorts of feelings to arise. Take the time to recognise your emotions rather than pushing them to the side.
Blue Light work often requires responding to unpredictable situations, and life is no different. Remember that you’re well equipped in facing challenges, and that the key is to focus on the factors which you can control. This could be your mindset, routine, or the proactive steps you take.
Major transitions in our personal or professional lives can feel like an overwhelming domino effect, particularly when a few aspects of life are shifting at once. Instead of trying to figure everything out now, break it down into small, manageable steps. Ask yourself: what is one thing I can do today to make this transition easier?
Camaraderie is one of the strongest aspects of our Blue Light community, and that support doesn’t have to end when things change. Stay connected with colleagues, friends, and family who understand what you’re going through.
When we’re unsettled, sticking to a familiar routine where possible can provide a sense of stability. Whether it’s regular exercise, time with family, or maintaining daily habits, having structure can make change feel more manageable.
Not all change is negative, and even difficult transitions can bring new opportunities for growth, learning, connection or rediscovery. Whether it’s exploring a new path, finding a different way to get involved in the community, a new hobby, a new passion, or finding that you have more time to yourself, change has the power to open plenty of unexpected doors.
Just because you’re used to handling crisis at work doesn’t mean you have to adjust to personal change overnight. Give yourself time to adapt, and don’t be hard on yourself if things feel difficult at first or if the transition takes longer than expected. Change is a process, not a one-off event.
Your professional and personal experiences show that you are adaptable, resilient, and capable of handling uncertainty. Consider the challenges which you have faced before, and remember that you came through them. You can do it again.
Change isn’t easy, but by taking things step by step and focusing on prioritising your mental health in the process you can begin to navigate tricky life transitions and adapt with confidence.
Looking after your mental health during career transitions
For Blue Light workers and volunteers, career transitions can be both exciting and challenging. The stakes can feel high as we navigate a new opportunity in a high-pressure environment, with lots of potential change and sacrifice in our professional and personal lives. Whether you’re moving to a new role, changing location, or stepping away from service, change can bring uncertainty and stress making it crucial to prioritise your mental health. Here, we explore some key ways to navigate career transitions while maintaining your wellbeing:
Whether planned or unexpected, change can bring a mix of emotions. You may feel excited, relieved, anxious, uncertain, or even a sense of loss. Acknowledge these feelings without judgement and allow yourself time and space to properly process them.
One of the biggest challenges during significant transitions is the shift in social connections. Colleagues and team bonds often feel like a second family. Make an active effort to stay in touch with those that matter to you.
If you’re moving away from emergency services, consider looking for new communities – whether through volunteering, hobbies or networks which can offer similar camaraderie and purpose. Regular check ins and social interactions can provide emotional support and remind you that you’re not alone.
The worry, “what ifs” and sense of uncertainty can feel overwhelming during life changes, but instead of focusing on the unknown and matters out of your control, try to focus on the positives and the things you can control. It’s okay to not have it all figured out but trust that you’ll be able to adapt to what comes along the way.
Adjustment takes time. If you’re feeling unsettled, remind yourself that it’s part of the process. Small steps such as setting new goals, connecting with others, or seeking professional advice, can help you to gradually find your new path.
Blue Light work is more than a career – it’s often a core part of your identity. Transitioning can feel like a loss of purpose, but it’s also an opportunity to rediscover other aspects of who you are. What else brings you fulfilment? Exploring new, or revisiting old, passions can help you build a stronger sense of self.
You can also use this transitional period as a time to reflect on your career so far and the experiences that have shaped you. Recognise your achievements and the impact that you have made. This reflection can provide a sense of closure and help you move forward with confidence.
A structured routine can provide stability during uncertain times. Try to establish and maintain a daily schedule which contributes to self-care and maintaining a strong sense of purpose. This could include physical activity, social interaction, personal time, volunteering, new hobbies or working towards a project.
If you’re struggling with the transition, be honest about how you are feeling and lean on your support networks. This could be through support services through work, counselling or therapy, your friends, colleagues, or family. Talking to someone who understands can make a huge difference.
Finally, remember that you’re not alone and that, as a Blue Light worker or volunteer, you’re already a part of a supportive community, many of whom have experienced similar career transition challenges. No matter where you are in your career journey, your mental health matters.
Behind the Uniform: Finding identity away from your role
When meeting new people, how do you introduce yourself? Many of us will start with “my name is…”, shortly followed by our job. “I’m a firefighter”, “I’m a paramedic”, “a police officer”, “a dispatch worker” or “a carer”. But have you ever stopped and asked yourself who you are away from your role?
Our Blue Light roles are a badge of honour, they simply make us who we are. But for some emergency service workers and volunteers, decentring our personal identity away from our roles can prove somewhat difficult.
But why is this important?
Not knowing who we are away from our role can mean we struggle to switch off from our responsibilities; it can mean our lives begin to evolve around work with no break or rest. Not only does this risk burnout, exhaustion and compassion fatigue, but it can put strain on our relationships with friends and family.
Asking ourselves ‘who am I’ can feel like an overwhelming and difficult question, especially if we don’t have the answer right away. But there are some simpler, proactive steps and strategies we can take when thinking about our identity away from our roles.
Consider your characteristics and personality traits, how would you describe yourself and how would others describe you?
Caring, kind, brave, empathetic, leader, team player, confident, personable, funny, friendly and bold. Just some words which can be used to describe the people behind their Blue Light roles. Try to think about the building blocks form who you are as a person.
Who you are to others
Parent, sibling, son or daughter, dog-mum, spouse, friend or colleague. Taking on a Blue Light role is a big responsibility as you choose to care for or protect complete strangers. However, this doesn’t change who you are to your loved ones. As a result, it’s important that you set aside quality time to spend with those who you care about most, and who care about you, whether you’re an emergency worker or not.
Hobbies and interests
Having an outlet away from our roles is vital to ensure we’re taking a break from work. Whether it’s a sport, reading, travelling, painting, playing an instrument, gaming or watching films – our hobbies and interests help to formulate who we are, and so it’s important to invest time into these aspects of our identity too.
If not Blue Light, then what?
It may feel like a scary thought, especially if you’ve always known what you wanted to be, but if it wasn’t your Blue Light role, then what would your dream job be? A baker, a hairdresser, a footballer? I’m not saying to hand in your notice and pursue a career as a famous pop star. But thinking about what else you would do helps to remind us that there is more to life than our current roles and that our journey aren’t confined to a set pathway.
Seek new experiences
You could travel to a new place, enrol in a class or train for a challenge. Setting yourself new goals, stepping out of your comfort zone and trying something new can help you to grow and develop as a person by adding some extra pieces to the puzzle if you’re still unsure on your identity.
Finally, as a rule of thumb, try to remember that finding your sense of identity comes hand-in-hand with finding fulfilment and purpose in other areas of your life.
David’s Story: Transition through management
David Lewis, Principal of Rightsteps, discusses his transition into management, the challenges he faced when adjusting to his new responsibilities and the importance of supporting your team to look after their own mental health.
I first became a manager in one big step which was a huge transition and a massive shock. I was suddenly in charge of setting up a whole new drug and alcohol service, recruiting a team and overseeing all the logistics that came with it. Looking back, I was totally overwhelmed but managed to survive.
Things didn’t actually work out very positively with that service, which was a huge disappointment as I had felt a huge amount of responsibility for it, even though there were factors that I knew were beyond my control. But I learnt lots of lessons, some of which have only become clear with hindsight, which have been valuable throughout my career as manager.
Adjusting to management
I think the biggest adjustment is that your performance becomes, to some degree, dependent on the performance of others – sounds obvious, but it means you have to shift a lot of your focus from yourself to others and their needs, their challenges and what will help them to perform at their best.
In some ways I was fortunate in that I have a background in psychology and working with people who wanted to achieve change in their lives. Understanding what drives individuals and how to best engage with them was key to this and I’ve found that I’ve used many of these skills in my management career since.
Another big adjustment is the increased accountability that comes with being a manager. This can be very daunting at first and for me, I had to learn how to not let it become all consuming. This wasn’t easy and sometimes it can still feel like that. However, I think that with time, experience and learning from lessons and events you build your confidence and skills in managing your accountabilities and maintaining a balance in affecting what you can affect and accepting what you can’t.
Balancing workload and maintaining mental health
There have been times where I’ve struggled with this. When you care about your work and you want to do your best, it can be difficult to maintain perspective when you face particularly challenging situations or when you take a big step in your career – which is true whether you have management responsibilities or not.
Work inevitably affects you in your personal life, and sometimes it affects me in ways that are less obvious. I’ve learnt that I don’t like to talk about work much outside of work, which is probably a reflection of my personality and general coping mechanisms. But sometimes I do need to talk or do other things to manage my wellbeing – the key for me is to recognise the signs that might show that something is not right in the first place. It’s taken me time to learn these signs, which might be developing a twitch in my eye or becoming less sociable outside of work for example, but now that I know them, I can start to work out what is affecting me and what I can do to change the situation.
Supporting your team to look after their mental health
Something I came to realise quite early on in my management career was the need for me, as a manager, to protect the people I manage in order to help them to perform at their best.
Ultimately, I want people to be happy and well in their work. Key to this is people being suited to their roles and supported to do as well as they can in them. This is not just about each individual, it’s about the atmosphere that you as a leader create in the workplace. The positivity, the responsiveness, the feeling of safety. It’s also, I think, about protecting people in order to help them perform to their best. I don’t mean this in a condescending way, and I’d hate for anyone to feel they weren’t treated as adults and with respect. What I mean is that one of the responsibilities of management is, at times, to hold the worries and issues, to manage the flow of information or the work demands so they don’t negatively impact on your team. And at the same time use your judgement to know what to push on, what to share and what to challenge and when.
Stepping away from management, one day.
I don’t find the thought of stepping away scary. I’m a great believer that, to some degree, change is needed for anything or anyone to thrive. When I’ve transitioned out of roles during my career in the past, I’ve enjoyed seeing people take over and how they’ve taken the responsibilities forward using their own approaches and skills. And I think this is really important in organisations – for different perspectives and styles to lead the subsequent phases but hopefully with the same values that have gone before.
How to know when it’s time to move on
For many individuals working or volunteering in the emergency services, their role is more than a job, but a way of life and a core aspect of their identity. The commitment, camaraderie, and sense of purpose that the roles often bring can make it difficult to know when it’s time for a change. Whether you’re considering a change in career path, new opportunity, or retiring, recognising the signs that it’s time to move on can be essential for wellbeing.
Here, we explore some key indicators that it might be time to consider taking the next step. If you’re noticing these signs within yourself, it doesn’t necessarily mean you need to completely overhaul your life. Instead, it might just mean that some small changes need to be made in order for you to prioritise your health and overall happiness.
Everyone has tough days, and Blue Light work can be emotionally and physically exhausting at the best of times. But if you’re experiencing consistent symptoms of burnout more often than not, or are feeling disconnected from your work, it might be an indication that your current role is taking a toll on your mental health.
Many people join the Blue Light sector because they want to make a difference. If you’re starting to find that your role no longer gives you a sense of purpose, or you feel like you’re just “going through the motions” it might be time to explore new opportunities that reignite your passion.
By nature, Blue Light work is demanding and can require unsociable, long working hours. But, if your job is consistently negatively impacting your relationships, social life, and overall happiness outside of work, it may be worth reconsidering your values and priorities. Being able to strike a healthy balance between career and personal wellbeing is crucial.
High-stress environments can have a lasting impact on both mental and physical health. If you’re experiencing frequent headaches, anxiety, mood changes, fatigue, or health concerns, it might be a warning sign that something needs to change.
Personal and professional growth is key to long-term satisfaction. If you feel stuck in your current role with no opportunities to develop new skills, take on fresh challenges, or progress in your career it might be time to look for a new direction.
If the thought of moving on keeps coming up, it’s worth paying attention to. When you regularly imagine a different path, whether it’s a new job, a different sector, or retirement, it may be your mind’s way of telling you that you’re ready for change.
It’s natural to feel uncertain about big changes, but staying in a role because of comfortability or worries about what comes next is different from staying because you truly want to. If fear of the unknown, or a settled routine, is the main thing keeping you in your current position, it might be a sign that it’s time to explore your options.
What’s next?
Recognising that it’s time to move on is an important first step, but if you’re feeling unsure about what comes next:
There’s no need to rush into any decisions and there’s no harm in seeing what else is out there. Researching your choices and having an awareness of the potential options can make the transition feel less daunting.
A trusted colleague, mentor, friend, family member or support service might be able to help you work through any thoughts or worries.
Change can be challenging, so take time to care for yourself and prioritise your own mental health throughout the process.
Leaving or transitioning within the Blue Light sector is a big decision, but it’s one that should support your happiness, health, and future. If you’re noticing these signs, trust your gut and embrace the opportunity for an exciting new chapter.
Managing uncertainty this General Election
For some, the turbulence of a looming election can be exciting, providing the opportunity to have your say and enabling you to feel optimistic or empowered. For others, navigating political uncertainty and trying to keep up with different campaigns can feel overwhelming. You may be feeling stressed, worried, anxious or fed up with it all. Regardless of your opinion on politics, and who you may or may not be voting for, it’s important that we all take steps to look after our mental health during this time.
Take breaks from political media
The constant mainstream media coverage, heated debates on social media and disinformation online during election season can leave you wanting to go completely off grid and never look at a screen again. While the hour-by-hour online, TV and news reports can be interesting and helpful for staying up to date, it’s important to take time away from it all.
Focus on what you can control
Uncertainty about the future and potential change can be nerve wracking. Instead of focusing on the things that are out of your hands, try to focus on the things in your life which you have direct control over such as your habits, routines and spending time with loved ones. Try to focus on maintaining healthy habits and practicing self-care as a priority by investing time into things which bring you joy.
It’s okay to change the topic
When spending quality time with friends and family, the topic of politics may come up. They may ask who you’re voting for, try to sway your decision, or just catch up on the latest campaign advancements. Ultimately, if and who you choose to vote for is your choice and you do not need to discuss it if you don’t feel comfortable doing so. It’s okay to acknowledge what they’re saying and change the topic to something else.
Navigating when you’re the subject
General elections can spike heightened emotions and tension for many. You may find topics or identity factors which directly apply to you being discussed within the media, for example race, ethnicity, sexuality, age, disability, profession, and income. While this can be distressing and frustrating, try to remember that parties’ views are not always those of everyone around you. Try not to let your feelings be influenced too heavily by the opinions of others.
Connect with others and seek support if needed
Finally, remember that you are not alone in how you are feeling. Try to reach out to those you trust, open up about your concerns and support each other during this time of uncertainty. If your feelings begin to become overwhelming, you may also want to consider seeking expert support for guidance and help establishing coping strategies.
Navigating job rejection
Applying for a new role – whether in the Blue Light sector or beyond – can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. Putting in the time and effort to prepare, waiting for an outcome, and potentially facing rejection can be a tough process.
Rejection is a natural part of any career journey, but it doesn’t define your abilities or your future. Here, we explore how to navigate job rejection while staying motivated to prioritise your mental health and wellbeing.
It’s normal to feel frustrated, upset, or even question yourself after a rejection, especially if you were really invested in the opportunity. Rather than pushing them to the side, acknowledge your feelings and take time to process your emotions so that you can begin to move forward with a clearer mindset.
Rejection is not a reflection of your worth or ability. Remember that hiring decisions are influenced by many factors, many of which are out of your control. The phrase “when one door closes, another opens” is often true, and just because this opportunity wasn’t the one, doesn’t mean the next one won’t be.
If possible, ask for feedback from the interview panel or hiring manager. Understanding what you did well and where you could improve can help you feel more in control and better prepared for future applications.
A job rejection doesn’t erase the skills, experience and dedication which has got you this far. Rather than focusing on negatives, acknowledge what you bring to the table such as your resilience, teamwork, problem-solving and everything else that makes you a valuable professional.
While it’s okay to take time to figure out your next steps, try not to let rejection stop you from moving forward. Use the experience to fuel your next steps.
Job rejections can knock your confidence, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Being unsuccessful in an application process is nothing to be embarrassed about so lean on your support network. Whether it’s colleagues, family or friends, talking can help you to regain perspective and motivation.
When applying for a new opportunity, the process can be all-consuming. A 20-minute interview can be at the forefront of our minds for weeks beforehand, and that’s without extra application steps such as tasks. During this time, it can be easy to lose focus on other aspects of our lives which promote a healthy work-life balance. Use this as an opportunity to focus on self-care, hobbies, projects or spending time with loved ones.
Finally, remember that the right opportunity is still out there and that every application, regardless of outcome, is a chance to grow. Rejection is tough, but it’s not a dead end, it’s redirection.
Navigating retirement
Retirement from Blue Light roles is a significant life transition. After years, or sometimes decades, of dedicating yourself to helping others, stepping away from the uniform can bring a mix of emotions. Relief, pride, uncertainty, worry, emptiness, or a sense of grief, are all completely normal feelings when saying goodbye to a role that has been all-consuming for so long.
The sense of purpose, structure and camaraderie that comes with Blue Light work doesn’t disappear overnight. Adjusting to life after retirement takes time, patience and self-compassion, but with the right mindset and support it can be a fulfilling new chapter. Here, we explore how to navigate this milestone transition.
Especially when it brings you passion and joy, choosing to step away from something so familiar with can be an incredibly difficult decision to make. For many, retirement feels like a shift in identity with lack of direction. There’s also often so many factors to consider when retiring that it feels easier to push through and work a bit longer. Feeling empowered to step away in your own time, and being prepared, can make the world of difference when it comes to your wellbeing.
Leaving your role doesn’t mean having to lose the camaraderie of the Blue Light community and your team. Bonds formed in high-pressure situations are unique, and it’s natural to worry about missing that sense of belonging, but be confident in the friendships you have made and make an active effort to continue to involve yourself wherever possible.
When we retire, finding something meaningful to focus on can help us to continue to feel motivated, driven and purposeful.
You could explore volunteering within, or outside, the sector, or take up hobbies or interests that may have been put on hold during your career. If you’re not quite ready to fully hang up the uniform, consider part-time work or consultancy in a related field.
Retirement inevitably comes with practical challenges, particularly regarding finances. Regardless of your situation, planning ahead can help to reduce stress and worry.
Rather than waiting for concerns to arise, consider accessing support and seeking guidance early to explore your options and feel confident in your situation.
After years of intense, demanding work, retirement is an opportunity to focus on your wellbeing. However, for some the shift from busy long hours to extended free time can feel daunting, particularly without the structure or routine of shift work.
Try to establish a daily routine which provides structure and purpose, stay active and make time to get outdoors, and don’t ignore any signs that you could be struggling with your mental health.
Retirement is a journey of adjustment, and some days will feel easier than others. Be patient with yourself and try to focus on what you’ve gained from your career rather than what you’ve left behind.
When retiring, the skills, experience and connections you’ve built don’t disappear – they can continue to evolve by creating a retirement which is just as fulfilling as a full-time role.
Relocating for work
Moving for work can be both an exciting and daunting experience. Whether you’re a rotational trainee doctor, a police officer looking to climb the ranks, a carer wanting a change of scenery, or a fire fighter looking to move closer to home, changing roles and teams is sometimes an inevitable part of the job for many Blue Light workers and volunteers. The decision to move may require you to decide between comfortability and career progression. It might require you to uproot your family, leave a team you love, or completely start from scratch. Here, we provide a tailored guide to help you navigate the transition of relocating for work in the hope of helping you adjust that little bit easier.
Acknowledge how you feel and focus on the positives
Change is scary, and it’s okay to feel a bit worried about the unknown. Try to acknowledge how you feel and think about the potential impact that the transition may have on your mental wellbeing, but also think about the positives of moving and what could be achieved. By embracing the challenge, staying open minded, and communicating about how you feel, you can begin the transition with a sense of confidence and resilience.
Prepare
Not knowing what to expect can sometimes be the most daunting aspect of moving, so try to familiarise yourself with the new area, the new team and their ways of working to ensure that the transition is as smooth as possible. If you have loved ones coming with you, you may want to scope out the new location to see what may appeal to them and help you all to feel at home sooner.
Stay in touch
Moving to a new location can be lonely so try to make an effort to stay in contact with loved ones or close colleagues from your previous teams. Their support and encouragement can provide comfort during the transition.
Connect with your new team
In high-pressure roles with long, unpredictable shifts, our teams are often people we rely upon, sometimes they become just as close as our families. As a result, it can feel easier to isolate ourselves from teams with already formed bonds and connections.
Try to step outside of your comfort zone and proactively integrate yourself into your new team. For example, start conversations and take invitations within your stride to establish a rapport with those that you will be working with.
Give yourself time to adjust
Be patient and kind to yourself, it’s normal to feel a little overwhelmed or out of place initially, but with time and effort you will find your footing and settle into your new surroundings.
Finally, try to keep in mind that nothing has to be permanent if you don’t want it to be. Give it a chance, and if you’re still struggling to adapt, then it’s okay to consider something new as you prioritise your wellbeing.
Returning to work after loss
Losing someone close to you is one of the hardest experiences in life. As a Blue Light worker or volunteer, you’re use to dealing with difficult situations, but when grief and loss is personal, returning to work can feel overwhelming.
After experiencing loss, we often feel pressured to “get back to normal”, but there is no timeline. Any type of loss is a deeply personal process, and adjusting to work again takes time. If you’re facing this transition, here are some ways to support yourself as you return:
Returning to work can bring a mix of emotions, we may feel relieved and hopeful about regaining a sense of routine, anxious about how we are going to cope, frustrated or not ready to return, or guilty for shifting your focus onto something new. These feelings are completely normal, but you don’t have to pretend that everything is fine. Before returning, try to accept that it won’t feel the same and that adjusting will take time.
You may not feel 100% ready, and that’s okay. Or you may feel ready and fine one day, and find the next much more difficult. Rather than expecting yourself to be back to full capacity immediately and holding yourself to unrealistic expectations, focus on getting through each day as it comes and be patient with yourself.
If you feel able to, let your manager know how you’re feeling. You don’t have to share everything, but having support systems in place can make it easier if you need to step away for a moment or adjust your workload. Consider what it is you need during this process and use the support services which are available to you.
You may face unexpected situations which remind you of your loss and bring an array of emotions to the surface. Often this is unavoidable, and could happen weeks, months or years later. If this happens, know that it’s okay to step away, take a breath, or reach out for support.
Grief is something which we carry with us, and it’s not something we can switch off for work. Some days, work may feel like a welcome distraction. Other days, emotions might hit unexpectedly. Rather than supressing your grief, allow yourself space to feel and process it.
Returning to work doesn’t mean ignoring your own wellbeing. Find small ways to take care of yourself, both at home and work.
There is no “right way” to handle loss. Remind yourself that you are human first and that your experiences, and coping mechanisms are valid. After loss, we may feel guilty for “moving on”, but while it never fully leaves us, we all deserve to walk without weight on our shoulders. Try not to feel guilty for finding positivity and reasons to smile in the harder moments, be kind to yourself and remember it’s okay to feel.
Finally, remember that even though loss is a deeply personal journey, it’s okay to ask for help along the way. Know that support is available when you need it.
Returning to work – Toolkit
Returning to work after leave can feel overwhelming. This toolkit offers practical steps and supportive advice to help you ease back into your Blue Light role with confidence and care.
The art of letting go: What to leave behind.
As Blue Light workers and volunteers, the vital work we do often comes with stress, challenges and emotional tolls which build up over time. Welcoming in the new year is an opportunity to reflect on the things we’ve been holding onto and decide what we can leave behind to make space for a lighter, more fulfilling year ahead.
Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting or ignoring past experiences. It means consistently choosing to remove unnecessary weight from your shoulders and releasing the things which no longer serve you. Here are some things to consider leaving behind as we step into the new year:
1. The weight of perfectionism
In our Blue Light roles, the stakes are high, and the pressure to perform perfectly often leads to heightened stress and self-criticism. Acknowledge that you’re human, doing your best in an often-unpredictable environment. Focus on progress not perfection, and give yourself credit for the things you achieve every day.
2. Wanting to be everything to everyone
It’s natural to want to be 100% available for everyone – your team, your community, your friends, and your family. But spreading yourself too thin can lead to unnecessary pressure and burnout. Let go of the expectation that you need to handle it all alone, allow yourself to establish boundaries and set personal priorities.
3. Negative self-talk
It can often be easy to focus on what you could be doing better but carrying a negative or cynical voice with you can undermine your confidence, sense of self and resilience. Practice replacing negative thoughts with compassionate ones.
4. Physical and emotional clutter
The age-old saying “tidy space, tidy mind” applies both to our physical environment and our mental health. Organising and simplifying your space and the thoughts you have can help you to feel lighter and more focused.
Last year may have bought difficult experiences – losses, mistakes, or moments that still weigh on your mind. While it’s important to honour or learn from these experiences, dwelling on them can also prevent you from moving forwards. If needed, seek support to help you process and release these feelings.
5. Toxic comparisons
Comparison really is the thief of joy. Avoid comparing yourself to others – whether it’s career progression, how they handle stress, or their personal life – and focus on your own journey, recognising the unique challenges you’ve navigated and your achievements.
6. Old habits which aren’t beneficial
There’s no need to set any unrealistic expectations and resolutions to drastically change your life in. However, taking a moment to reflect and consider your routines can help you to make healthier choices which benefit your mental health going forwards. Are there habits, such as skipping meals, neglecting sleep, or binge drinking when stressed, that could be negatively impacting your wellbeing?
7. The idea that self-care is selfish.
It simply isn’t. Let go of the guilt of setting boundaries and prioritise yourself. By taking care of your wellbeing, you ensure you’re able to continue helping others effectively.
8. Fear of vulnerability
The nature of our work can make it difficult to let our guard down, but vulnerability and seeking support when it’s needed is a strength. Sharing your own feelings and being prepared to really ask others how they are doing, can foster connection and provide much needed support.
9. The things you can’t control
As Blue Light workers, it’s in our nature to want to fix everything, making it difficult to accept situations which are unpredictable and out of our control. Dwelling on what we can’t change only drains our energy and mood.
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